I’m Brooke. This is my story and my journey into finding happiness.
If you’ve read my about me, you’ve barely scratched the surface into my complicated journey of life. I am many things. Educated, hard-working, confident, adventurous, difficult, self-conscious, stubborn, irrational, and many others.
To support myself and find my meaning in life, I work as a full-time victim advocate. I work to provide response to crime victims at all hours of the day 24-7, 365. With a career that can be emotionally challenging, but rewarding at the same time, I am required to attend training’s on the importance of self care. I cannot tell you how many times I have attended training’s that teach you how to take care of yourself. Yet, the only thing I’ve ever taken home with me was the importance of finding things to do that make you happy. Okay, but what does that mean? Food makes me happy, but that doesn’t mean eating every time I am stressed is going to solve my problems.
As an advocate, we are also trained to compartmentalize our personal traumas to fully support the person we are working with. I completely agree this is the appropriate thing to do while working. However, internalizing our own experiences while encountering secondary trauma every day can be very taxing. Especially when it comes to relationships, work ethic, and overall well being without a proper self love ritual.
Which brings me here, when I hit rock bottom about a year ago. I was in a car accident, my home was burglarized, my dad was in the hospital, my relationships were suffering, and I was unemployed trying to finish up and pay for graduate school. You could say I had a lot going on. I had the education behind me about empowerment, resilience, trauma, how to overcome challenges. Yet, I could not get myself out of this rut, I still am struggling to be honest.
All in all, I mention all of this because I want to show that I am real. I have struggles just like you do. I have hit my rock bottom and I am ready to climb back up. This blog formed because I need it as my way to set goals, hold myself accountable, and hopefully inspire others along the way to join my journey in finding life-long-lasting happiness. Let’s be real here, if I don’t take this journey serious starting right now, my burnout is going to be explosive.
So, August (and hopefully every month after…), I am going to make you mine.
Finish a book on happiness
Journal 3 things to be grateful following each day
Spend 20 minutes a day meditating after work to separate my work-home life
EXERCISE at least 4 times a week
Spend time outside hiking on my rare days off
Apologize. (I am way too stubborn and stuck in my ways and my relationship definitely takes its toll)
Finish at least 3 chapters in my quest to learn Spanish
Drink more water and stay hydrated
Spend less money on eating out and more time on cooking homemade meals (check out the food & fitness section for some healthy recipes I plan on trying!!)
Take time to LOVE myself whether it be giving myself compliments when I need them or forgiving myself for mistakes that I make
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